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{happy night out with my bestie Katierose}
I’m married to a “glass half full” kind of guy, which is good because I am not. But nobody likes being around a negative person (and you guys certainly didn’t click this blog to get bummed out), so it’s something I’m working on to be better about. I got some disappointing career news yesterday, and I really let it affect me and spin the rest of my day out; but all of the loved ones I reached out to had a very different perspective than I did, seeing it as an opportunity and a positive instead of a sign that’s it’s time to quit Hollywood and have a baby (my favorite thing to sob when I’m feeling especially melodramatic and sorry for myself).
The thing is, I’ve had a great week. I performed in a storytelling show on Sunday night that I was scared to do and ended up having a blast. We’ve gone on a few double dates with people we love. I’ve forced my dogs to endure a lot of snuggling. Some really nice people have had some really nice things to say about the blog (thank you again for your support). But, I let yesterday’s news overshadow everything. I don’t want to do that anymore, I really want to try to take things in stride and not be so hard on myself, or get so upset when things don’t go exactly as I planned them to. And I’m also going to try harder to expand my definition of success, and not mentally abuse myself when I’m not achieving the exact thing I wanted by the exact timeline I set for my life. (If you have any advice on how to do this, please comment below!)
In the meantime, though, I’m going to waste some time on the internet. BECAUSE I’M A MILLENIAL (I think. Please don’t tell me if I’m too old to be a millenial.) AND THAT’S WHAT WE DO. Happy hump day, you sweet sweet people!
15 rules of improv that ANYONE can follow to live a more fulfilling life.
These inspiring women on what success means to them. (Not gonna lie, I cried into my toast as I read this piece this morning.)
Can’t wait to try all of these beauty tips.
Beautiful photos of fall from around the world. #WANDERLUST
101 best places to eat in L.A.
And if you’re not eating these days (because really, who in L.A. besides me is), here’s 20 cool things to do in L.A. in November!
This is going to make me just a little more careful when my friends let me play with their Tinder…
11 products and rituals these morning people swear by.
Jonesing hard for this dress.
Drooling over these make-ahead Thanksgiving desserts.
Foolproof tips for battling writer’s block.
15 fun facts about When Harry Met Sally.
For past lovable links, click around in here!
4 Comments
GRT ONE. hang in there.xxxx
Kara, you are the greatest. THANK YOU!! And thank you for being so supportive of the blog!! Can’t wait to hang again soon. X A
Hi Annie,
I read this blog post a few days ago, and what you said has really stayed with me so I thought I’d reply (a bit out of character for me!). I think that sharing your experience of disappointment, and showing your vulnerability is really powerful; it takes guts to be able to show that side of yourself, particularly on a blog where you only really have to share what you want to. I’d like to commend you for sharing your experience, partly just because it’s really reassuring to hear that other people go through these same ups and downs!
On the particular issue that you are facing re work, I would really recommend reading Brene Brown’s new book Rising Strong (don’t worry, i’m not her PR or anything). She was interviewed this week on BBC Radio 4’s Women’s Hour (link here, but I’m guessing that you guys probably can’t get the BBC over there? http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/p021xb0r ) and she spoke really powerfully about how everyone gets knocked back, but that we are all capable of building the resilience we need to cope with it, and come out stronger.
Like another one of your readers, I really like the Gratitude List that you do – it’s a great reminder to reflect on all the brilliant stuff we have! Today I am grateful for: a slow Sunday morning, a massive mug of coffee, the crisp autumn leaves outside and the prospect of seeing family for supper tonight.
Hope you’re having a great weekend! Helen x
Helen! This is the most beautiful note, thank you. I’ve re-read it four times because it just makes me so happy… I can’t believe someone in the UK is reading my blog, and connected enough to it to write to me!! (Totally know what you mean, too – I read so many blogs and rarely comment, but now that I’m a blogger myself, I realize just how powerful and wonderful those comments are, so thank you for stepping outside your comfort zone.)
Your words mean a lot, too, because I wasn’t sure how sharing my disappointments would be received; there’s an odd line of writing about my life, but wanting to keep things professional, and I want this blog to be a fun escape for readers. Everyone has things go wrong in their lives, and I didn’t want to come across as self-indulgent or hosting a pity party on the blog. But, at the same time, blogs (and social media in general) can often leave me feeling bad about myself, and so I thought maybe people might connect to me sharing the not so perfect/curated/filtered parts of my life. I was nervous about it, so this was an especially generous comment! Thank you!
I just clicked the link and it worked! I can’t wait to watch, thank you so much for sharing. I’ll have to buy her book, too, it sounds like something I need right now.
I’m having the exact same Sunday morning as you over here in sunny CA, and hope you’re enjoying a family dinner right now! THANK YOU again for this beautiful note. X A